It is my responsibility to move from “What if” to “Can do.”

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I remember once having a conversation with one of my colleagues in Grad School. I had just finished showing her a video of some friends and acquaintances partying in the White House. A joyful cadre of Queer and Trans people of color, they were dancing and celebrating themselves in a building that had historically excluded them.

This wasn’t an uncommon occurrence for me. When you’re a Black Queer person on the activist/organizer trail, you quickly realize that your networks are highly interconnected, but small. …


DaBaby and other homophobic clowns don’t deserve our empathy, let alone our attention.

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In case you haven’t yet been made aware, famous rapper DaClown has come under fire for an impromptu homophobic, serophobic tirade at one of his concerts. It went a little something like this:

If you didn’t show up today with HIV, AIDS, or any of them deadly sexually transmitted diseases, that’ll make you die in two to three weeks, then put your cellphone lighter up . . . Fellas, if you ain’t sucking d**k in the parking lot, put your cellphone lighter up.

It’s ok, I’ll let you take a moment to process the chaos of it all…

OK back…


We’re supposed to know better for the sake of doing better.

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You can call it Civil Rights. You can call it Social Justice. You can call it the freshly minted and oft-maligned, “Woke.” However you dress it up, the basic premise of these words is that they represent awareness. Awareness of injustice, of harm caused, by being treated unfairly.

We all possess varying degrees of awareness, from the crib to the grave, regardless of political alignment. Ask any child and they’ll find a way to tell you they don’t think something is fair. They may not have the precise language, but they know that something is wrong.

This is the basic…


Yes!! Another huge issue with the idea of "male socialization" or "Having male privilege" is that 1) Privilege is an incredibly dynamic things that can be given,revoked, warped at any moment for just about anyone. With "Male socialization" what does that even mean when you get into the nitty gritty of it? White male? Gay male? Effiminate male? Poor male? There's an inifinite number of ways for someone to be a male in the first place, and weaponizing the blanket statement of "male socialization" towards Trans women throws so many people under the bus.

My "male socialization" was essentially that…


I was snapping my fingers in agreement as I was reading this because YES all of this is so true. I call it "Trickle Down Humanity" and in the context of LGBTQ representation I call it "Lavender Gaslighting." Mass media and representation politics would have us all believe that we're collectively thriving as a community when, as you've stated in this article, many of us are still caught in the crosshairs of violence and dehumanization. A select few of us making it absolutely means nothing if on the ground floor of oppression, our most vulnerable are getting battered by multiple oppression.


What a sweet, sweet dream.

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Gender’s like ice cream, if you know what I mean, floating through life as if it were a dream. When a stranger asks, “What’s in front of my screen?” I roll out red carpets and set up the scene.

Vanilla is sweet, a classical taste. So in this story, it is the base. Assigned at birth, with little consent, we don’t speak of flavors like pecan or mint. I sit in the chair, scowl on my face, I don’t like it, no, don’t like this place. …


Reminders to work for yourself first, everything else will follow.

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One of the biggest struggles I have as a creator is feeling as if everything I produce is worthless. Every idea, every draft, every accomplishment. Each and every one of them belonging to the trash pile before ever getting a chance to shine.

“Is it marketable? Will this have mass appeal?” “Will this be relatable?”

I stare at the computer screen while these questions swirl around my head like tropical gales. What good is even trying when your mind has already given up on the process? …


Conquering anxiety one piece at a time.

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It’s mid-afternoon and the sun has yet to vanish under the horizon. Sifting through YouTube has finally yielded the perfect writing playlist: A serene looking café accompanied by the sounds of smooth jazz.

Knuckles cracked, eyes forward, lets do the damn thing.

Seconds pass. Maybe I’m just blanking for a bit.

Ten minutes later. Ok I’m sure something will come to mind soon, I’m not worried.

Two hours later with no words on the page. What if…what if this won’t be good enough?

What’s going on here?

This Should Not be This Hard

Writing should often not be difficult. It should not be agonizing for me…


Three reasons why I wouldn’t have it any other way!

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Queer existence is the thing that sets me adrift and sets me free. A panacea that never gives out, my life is better for being who and what I am. In responding to Prism and Pen’s prompt, I didn’t have to dig too deep to come up with reasons why I love being a part of the LGBTQ community.

I Love Being the “Other”

So many modern LGBTQ narratives center around the idea that we’re just like our straight counterparts. We want the same things: Cute pets, families, capitalism dismantled. “We all possess the same love” they say, centering campaigns and messaging around this idea…

Joseph Coco

Writing about Life, Mental Health, and whatever washes up on the shore. Louisiana Creole. New Orleans. Queer. https://linktr.ee/JeauxWithTheFro

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